she was the prettiest girl in town when he married her.

gave her concussion few months ago, i guess.

threw her to the floor, hurt her neck & head,
had headache for about 3 days, (prolly got no insurance)
she waited 3 weeks to go to ER.

they said he hurt her neck and gave her a concussion.
all still hurts.

been married over 10 years.
done it all along, but never this bad.

his dad gave his mom a concussion and a tumor, she lost brain function because of her injuries. she finally took karate to defend herself


money's short, gas is high, tempers are higher.

no excuse to beat slap hit punch kick hit the mother of your children who really can't defend herself.

he slapped her around pretty good in front of his daugher, and some of their friends until the friends got in between them.

 

I'm not a law officer but have several friends who are and run w/some DAs. She needs to file a report...period.

 

I know what I would do. Id go over there and whoop his !@#. Period end of story!

 

Sounds like he needs to take a long walk in the woods. perhaps he might "fall down" and accidentally get some sense knocked into him.

Realisticly, the local PD should be contacted. Causing a concussion here in AK would qualify as a FELONY Assault.

If you can help the wife get out/away safley and she's willing go for it. Many DV victims won't leave for many reasons. Be very careful, DV situations turn ugly fast when outsiders get involved.

 

Nothing can happen until SHE step up and makes it happen. police cannot do anything unless he does it right in front of them, and usually men that do this will be too much of a coward to do anything in front of anyone else.

The best you can do is 1, pray for her, and 2, support her with information and a way out. Lots of women who are in this position are mentally beat down first and think they have no choice but to take it.

 

if his dad did it to the mom then thats all he knows have a nice long chat with him let him knwo the other side of abuse... he might just stop

 

He is doing what he learned from his father. Why on earth his mother and wife would tolerate that is beyond me. Sorry 04, I am not slamming you, it just really infuriates me.

I would IMMEDIATELY have her call the local P.D., and file an emergency no contact order. I know in my state they are required to arrest in ANY domestic violence incident. If the female has injuries from said assault the state enforces what ever charges are filed whether the female wants them to or not. Up here he would be doing time, especially with her going to the er.

10 years is a long time to handle domestic abuse, she should be packing his bags. Also look into battered woman programs that your state offers. They have ways to help her escape.

The Brady bill is a powerful tool and binds law enforcement to act, or its on them. Check it out.


Tim

 

She has to decide that enough is enough. Once that is done, she can go to a shelter for battered women, with the kids. They will keep him away - as much as they can. Most will assist with orders of protection and police. They also start the process of building a life again - job training, new housing, etc.

But first, she has to decide to get out. Help her when she does make the decision.

If she can't or won't make the decision, be ready to pray for her and her kids when he really hurts her.

Hal

 

she had the the Cops come out once, but she did not press charges,

she just "wanted them to make him stop"

she did not file charges, she did not want him arressted.
only thing i can think is she did not want to aggravate their financial situation (and his anger) by him going to jail / missing work.

they are a long ways away (12 hours?)
we have not been there since 2000 or 2001,

all you guys pray for them.
poverty is tough, but it's no reason to beat your wife.

a big thing i tell couples at my church is that it is YOU and HER against the WORLD.

not you against her.
you and her need to be a team, work together, think together, pray together, and figure how out to get ahead of the world.

she said he slapped her around the other night because she did not cook what he wanted for a meal (he had been asleep)

has 2 teenage kids.
i doubt she has any marketable job skills. dunno.
no jobs there, anyways.

 

Why in the world a "man" would want to beat his wife is beyond me. That is not the way God designed it, and there is a special place for these cats.

 

Wife beating is for the most part a learned skill -as you said his father hit his mother. He learned that hitting a woman was "alright". He thinks it is "alright" now. Something has to get in the middle of the cycle.

But, in the end she has to make the decision to get out.

Hal

 

Give me his phone number, I will make him an offer he can't refuse.

 

Let me know if ya want backup.

I hate scumbags like this guy. It alwas escalates until something really bad happens.

 

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This is the sad and unfortunate truth. Once they get the will to leave, they all wonder why they didn't do it sooner. He is not going to change any time soon, so it is all on her.

I will pray for her and her kids.


tim

 

next thing you know, Top is knocking on his door....


as stated above, you should try and convince her that its not right, and she should contact both the domestic violence section, and the battered womens groups. they all have more knowledge then any of us, and can help in ways we probably didnt even think of.

good luck.