Move her in with you and call the cops on him. It could progress to him doing serious long term damage to her and him in prison for along time.

Move her out and move her away. Lock him up.

 

If she hasn't gotten out of there by now, she's addicted to the beating. Chances are if she does leave, she'll go right back to it, cause she still has "feelings" for him. Sorry, but it's a fact.

 

John, that's a tough one. The wife has to decide she's had enough. I'm surprised the ER didn't notify the local law enforcement agency to get them involved.

 

I hate to see it get to where he beats the kids also.

Oh how I really hate those little men that beat women.

 

I'm seeing nothing but guys responding. OK, I'll step up to it, from the sorry experience that was my own early life.

Women do not think like men. Their (our) first and foremost object is to keep the family unit intact - and this gets twisted into "if I just do xxx and zzzz better, he will be happy and stay with us". It gets to be a vicious circle too damned quickly to be believed - ESPECIALLY if she saw the same male behavior condoned when she was young in her childhood family. These women always make it their own fault, and those men ALWAYS nurture their feelings of guilt and inadequacy to bolster their own power.

Yes, he is a sicko power-tripping lowlife - and could stand a good beating from someone big enough to do it, but that is not going to cure his problem. HE thinks that HE is OK - he's putting the blame on her, whether he can consciously admit it or not. Too many times the only cure for male animals of this ilk is a really permanent cure - about 200 grains of it.

You fellas who say SHE has to make that first move are correct - but she has to have someone to stand with her at this point. If she was strong enough to do it on her own, she already would have. Intervention is the only thing that can help her - and I will pray she gets some help before he puts her in the hospital, or worse.

Question - does this EDIT beat the kids too?

Prayers for your niece and her family - ALL of them.

 

Take her and the kids, put up some place safe.
then,
Give him my address and make him think they are here.!!! Send me a recording of her voice telling him to go away.
When he comes thru my door, he will have a knife on him, when the law gets here.
He is the lowest form of life.
She does need the strength to leave him. Obviously she doesn't.
Are you and the family going to watch this and feel terrible when the funeral happens? Or are you going to get involved and find the solution.
I bet alcohol is a factor too.

 

Drugs or another woman too!!

 

Where is she? That is a factor in where she can go for shelter. Might have to go to the nearest larger city.

Hal

 

please Do NOT remove her from the family. BEST THING any woman can do is call domestic violence hotline (211) is a good start for info in your area.

as a judge and from personal experience- please get the support and information needed to hear that YOU are NOT what he describes you to be.
YOU have strong will power and can tell your teens that this is abusive behavior- ALL behaviors can be controlled with understanding and a personal decision to change for the better when facts are presented.
( He WILL go to jail at the next attempt. Yes, he is a coward- probably totally different in front of the public; very humiliated in front of family and close friends- when NO ONE says that is not nice, stop! he will be faced with his bad behavior. and so on)

money will not be an issue should the decison be made for him to be arrested and prosecuted (only way to MAKE him stop). crime victims network
supports a housing payment and food money for a limited time, a sum amount is also available after prosecution (like 2,000 dollars).

John, have her PM me or contact my email address if you still have it.
her helping herself is what is needed. concussions are no joke. we pay our taxes just for this situation. all the Best to you and yours, my Southern friend.
heidi

 

I'm traveling through SC next week, "Dan" and I could stop by and say HI!!

 

In the summer time I run a shark fishing Charter boat,
I'm always looking for good bait!

 

call the police and report ut your self

 

I am with the other guys. I would show up and pimp slap that dude. then i would leave him with a warning that would curl his toes.

 

... and probably be the one who goes to jail. He would more than likely call the cops.

Hal

 

Sounds like he's got her mentaly beat down to the point of complete helplessness. It's gonna take a REAL strong willed person to shore her up and help her through this process ... because she won't do it on her own.

I have heard of this happening way too many times and even though close friends or relatives offer to help, the woman turns the help away because either they don't feel they can trust anyone or they worry about tat persons safety and consider the situation terminal.

If someone could help her & the kids flee without him knowing and keep her away until someone of authority can straighten him out ... maybe that would help ??

PISTOL