Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

It can be hard, but in the end it's worthwhile.

 

^^^^That is a good one!

A wise man once told me I set my standards for others too high, and when they fail to reach them, I get disappointed...

So, set them unusually low and let their accomplishments amaze you.

That was great advice.

 

Thanks for the clarification of your thoughts, but they're off a bit about the reality of my situation.

Yes, it's true and undeniable that I feel guilt over not speaking to him over the last 10 years. I wouldn't have posted this thread otherwise.

When I found out he was dying, I contacted his daughter, who initially stated he didn't want to see me. After 9 hours of driving all night long, I arrived there, and made myself known, both to his daughter and wife that I was there to see him. A few hours later, his wife came to see me, and she re-iterated that he wasn't in a good place, and that he didn't want to see me. Her description was of riving pain and discomfort, and the facilities attempt to control this. I made it clear that I was there for several days, and upon allowing me to be there, I would be by his side.

By the 3rd day, I had to leave to attend to procuring residency for my mother, who is ultimately leaving us as well due to progressive congestive heart failure. Since there is no direct family member there to take care of her after my brother passes away, I've taken on the responsibility of ensuring the final days, weeks, months of my mothers life are filled with as much comfort as possible. I'm picking her up this week after all the paperwork is finished and approval by both doctors and facilities are synchronized.

Prior to leaving, I, and my other family members who live here, are taking my mother to the hospital where my brother is, and giving them a chance to see each other for a final time. It will be their decision on how it proceeds as I'm just a messenger. Hopefully he concedes and allows me to visit.


Nuff said.


Thanks for the thoughts. Time to move on for me.

 

You have a very full plate. I can empathize.


I hope you find peace sooner than later. Gob Bless.

 

I would see him anyway. His wife nor his daughter would stop me from this.
He is your brother. Get it done. If it is good or bad. He needs to forgive you so he can be a peace. It appears you have forgiven him.

 

I called his hospital room today, and finally got to talk to him. He has no objection to seeing me when I come down there the next time. Planning that sometime in the next week or two, so progress has been made.


Good to hear his voice, and really good to know he said it was "ok"...


Thanks guys !


Hope I get there before the inevitable.

 

I bet your heart is jumpin' out of your chest hearing that. I've had one instance in my adult life with my sister that was so out of the norm for our family. I was so relieved and so thankful when I got the call and heard the words that essentially said things were ok. I cried. Releasing that stress and that emotional exhaustion and worry - best feeling I can recall.

I do wish you wings. I hope you get there.

 

That is great to hear NJT. I have been following this thread but I am fairly careful about jumping into emotionally charged discussions in the Internet. Still glad to hear about you and your 'bro.

 

Man that makes me feel good knowing this. I can only imagine how you feel.

 

What the heck are ya waiting for, get in that truck and beat feet!

I am very happy to hear that! Now get going....

 

Paperwork..... Picking up mom, taking her to see him, and then heading back here to get her set up in a new rehab center. It's incredible how much time, and effort it takes for a rehab center to provide the paperwork just to move an elderly person from one state to another.

I guess it's to protect the innocent.

 

It is enormous amounts of paper work. When I said that I did not mean it as what are you actually waiting for. I meant it like a kid waiting to go to the amusement park, I figured you be excited to go.

 

You're right, I am...