I see a lot of threads on requests for prayers and I make sure that I say a prayer for each and everyone that asks for one..

My request is not nessicerely for just prayers but just some hope for some good faith.

I am 18 years old, my sister who is 25 has a 3 year old daughter (My Niece).
Since I was 15 I've dealt with my sister living in Kentucky as her first husbend who was in the military was stationed there. Unfortunately he cheated on her after his 3rd tour which was in Afganistan.
After this she resided in Kentucky for some time as she grew fond of some friends down there. She met another guy through a mutual family friend and they started dating, ect. This guy was in the Marine Corps for a 4 year term, and then was just getting out of the Army in 4 years and had plans on moving back to PA with her to our family.

Not getting too in depth into their personal life but my baby niece was a result of her and his genes. After living in PA for roughly 10+/- months and my father getting him a job in the mines and busting *** to get them a house ect (which we did this once already with her first husband) he felt that she was cheating on him. He packed up his bags and headed back to Oaklahoma. Before he left my mom suggested that my sister talks to her lawyer and get some hints on how to write up a form of custiody paper. So she did which basically stated he was giving up his rights to his daughter, he signed and had it notorized. After about 4-6 months of midnight phone-calls at our residence of him being drunk and saying hes going to take the baby, it stopped.

Then about 3 weeks ago my sister got served with Custody papers and was supposed to be in OK to have the hearing. After countless amounts of money they are having a temporary emergency custody hearing tomorrow.

When he first moved out he tried harrassing me on the internet (I was only 16 or so) at the time trying to tell me about my sister cheating on him ect..

Anyways we've been getting phone calls at night with him threatening to take my niece. It has my sister all worried and my mom too. I swear they're both nearly having panic attacks!

It is very hard for me NOT to pickup the telephone @ 0415 and tell him I'm going to shove my 12gauge down his throat but I am trying to keep my whits about it as I do not want to stir the pot.

I just needed to vent.. I do not know how this low-life scum bag could think after nearly 2 years of not having any contact with his daughter to come back into our lives and harass my family.
He requested joint custody with my sister being primary and he requested long vacations (to Oaklohoma)...

Now if he would of been mature, not up and left my sister and my niece 2 days before christmas and move away, and tried to be in her life I would respect him for wanting to be in my nieces life.

But this man is absolutely pushing me to the EDGE

I just hope that some kind words from my friends on this page and some nice prayers can be said to help my family through this struggle and that nothing horrific will come from it. I pray everynight that my sister and everyone else in this situation has the strength to get through it and keep their wits about it.

Keep tight, dont take things for granted!

Thanks for letting me vent

-Jared

 

Praying.

Jon

 

Our prayers are with ya, keep us updated.

 

It's tuff... Just be there for your sis... Prayers sent!!!

 

May the Lord be beside Jeff's sister and niece at all times.

Amen

 

It's never a good situation when a family separates. Things like this always make it even harder. Hopefully GOD will help you and your family find a peaceful resolution.

 

Ill be sure to pray for you and your family Jared i think one thing you could ask God for is patience and wisdom im sure well all do the same for you.

 

Last I checked, child custody was something that had to be handled in the child's state of residence (PA in your neice's case) not the pettioner's nessisarily (OK for the dad). Should be a no brainer for any half way decent lawyer. Esspecially if he already gave up custody.

Hang in there, It gets easier eventually..................

 

Thanks all for the great replies.

She went in front of the local Judge today for the emergancy custody hearing and the Judge granted her full custody.

The papers that where sent to my sister from him which he was suing for custody and long vacation visits had all the wrong information on it which just shows how low this guy is, didn't even get where his daughter was born.

We had to hire a lawyer in TN (Where my niece was born) to fax papers to an other guy in OK to throw the case out in OK and move it to PA.

Everything is fine thus far, I honestly do not think we will hear anything else about it unless he gains more money.

Thank you all for your replies they're very appreciated.

I kind of got the "Big Brother"/Dad role with my Niece, I am very protective of her and I never thought I would be!

Children are wonderful beings and I love the fact I can be there while she grows up!

 

I'm praying too - it's probably a great idea to get in touch with a pastoral counselor and talk this out with them, it will only help in this case too...

 

Me and my family are praying for you and your Sister,Niece. Everything will work out Jared, hang in there.

 

Use your wits to stay calm buddy, you can't help your sis or her baby from jail. Many times these things can be worked out, just excercise patience. Prayers from the West Coast! Kurt

 

Very good advice right there. Hold your heads up high!!!