Im only 20 and dont have kids yet, but if i ever do have them, I wont hesitate to spank em, or give em a little swat on the leg. I was spanked as a child, and im thankful for it. The reason why there are so many dead beats in this country today is because parents simply dont know how to raise their children. They have no control over them at all. My mom comes from a big family, all her sisters/brothers have disciplined their children through spanking, except for one of my moms sisters, and it DEFINITELY shows. When my mom baby sits her kids tho, they dont get no slack. My mom doesnt hesitate to spank em' and guess what, they mind and respect her. They treat my mom with more respect than they do their own mom. Its kinda sad really and they need to be disciplined, but she just wont do it. Shes one of those "time out/count to 10 or else" moms.

 

Thankfully that got caught short of passing the freakish legislature here!!

My grandmother would grab a yard stick, (to this day I don't own one) .............I'm too traumatised...........

There is a huge difference between disciplinary spanking and beating your child. Spanking leaves no bruises!
Beat your child and you'll have a whole lot more to deal with than just me! I guarantee it

 

I don't see anything wrong with a spanking when needed, thats the way I was raised. It didn't matter if we were at the store or at home.

 

I definately believe in spanking!! I see the consequences every day of children running loose, unsupervised and controlling the house they are supposedly growing up in. Parents are doing their children a great disservice if they DO NOT spank.

I have a 10 year old son. He hardly ever needs any discipline because he knows and has learned from a very young age that he will get it if he deserves it.

Once we were in Walmart and he was running around like a yard ape, not minding and not staying close to me. I told him a couple of times to stay close to me and not get lost. Well about 2 minutes later...sure enough..he gets lost. I can see him but he can't see me. So he gets this real upset face and panic takes over. He knows now he is lost. So he goes up to an employee and I start walking that way to retrieve him. I told him, "When we get home, that's 5 licks". He knew exactly what that meant. Well I continued on shopping and going thru the checkout line. He stuck to me like glue and was just an angel boy doing everything he could to help, picking up groceries etc. and placing them on the checkout lane. We pay and leave. He is helping load the truck. We get home and unload....and I tell him...."go to your room and wait for me". I finished unloading the sacks and putting away all the stuff. 10 or 15 minutes later, I went and got the paddle that my mother spanked me with and went and gave him his 5 "licks" with it. It was very controlled and applied only to his buttocks and not in anger. He cried, mostly because he knew he dissappointed me (rather than the pain). I told him to stay there until I call him out. About 15 minutes later I called him and had him come sit down in the living room. I asked him "do you know why I spanked you" He said "cause I didn't stay close to you in walmart". I said
"that is true, but the real reason is because I love you and I want you to stay safe and grow up to be a productive citizen, instead of a yard ape". I gave him a hug. He cried again, but he knew it was because he was loved and I was doing it for his own best interest.

That was about 3 to 4 years ago and I don't think I have had to spank him since. He just doesn't need it. If I call, he comes running. If I give him an order, it is followed. But, he gets plenty of play time to go be a yard ape in the right setting.


I firmly believe that children need (and want) limits placed on them. If you cave in to their every whim and demand they will not feel secure. It is your obligation as their parent to provide that strong psychological foundation for them so that they will feel secure. They are going to test those boundaries. Just please make sure you provide some!!!

 

Spank the kid. If it wasn't for a good whipping when I was younger I woulda definately ended up in jail or the morgue. I was a hard headed stubborn son of a gun and the only way to get it through my thick skull that something was bad was to whip me. I was whipped all the way till I was 15 (I'm 21 now) and my dad still threatens to whip me if I act up and I believe he would. I turned out alright. All of my friends were whipped and they turned out alright. And you can guarantee that my kids will be whipped if they act up as well.

 

I disagree, a simple one upside the head is acceptable in my book....not hard enough too jolt the head, but enough too make the kid go "oops screwed up again".

 

I got many.. hand, belt, lilac switch... hand upside the head.. hand across the face.. heck i deserved em all and look how great i turned out :-/

Im for spanking. Depends on how bad the laws are when i go to have children though!

 

I see where you are coming from , It is like I said. it is not the actual pain it is the act of being spanked ( or a simple light slap up side the head ) although i would not do that I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

I have a 10 yr. old daughter and attitudes start running.Don't get it around this household. I don't put up with being talked back to,and I definately am not going to be disrepected. The hand on the behind and about 30 min. later she appologizes. I see kids everyday that are so out of control,it's ridiculous!

The parents are sitting there well if I spank them someone will call the police on me. Excuses. Take responsibility in disaplining your children. Okay I'm off my rant.

Example:A mother up at the school asked her son if he had all of his homework,he said don't worry about it, and to just get out of his face. About 4 of us mothers turned around and looked at this mother and she smiled at us and said he was having a bad day.. I would of just busted that hiney in front of everybody.

There is a difference between spanking and beating though.Some officals are not willing to separate the 2. Cin

 

"The big black belt". I will never forget that. Dad kept it in his top left dresser drawer. No buckle, a permanent crease from being doubled up and used for nothing else but "wearing out" me and my little brother. Mom used it a few times but usually she just had to say the words, "big black belt"! and that did the trick. Usually. We were never beat. Dad would bend us over his leg or the couch when we got older and a few swats across the rear end....... I spanked my kids and I spank my grand kids today. My 3 year old grandson will change his hard headed attitude quick when I say" Mawmaw, get me a switch!"
I remember back in the 70's when people would talk say , You shouldn't spank, use "child psychology". Yea right.
People nowadays seem like they are to busy, too lazy or just don't give a crap. We got our butt busted for saying "huh" instead of Maam or sir. Now a kid will scream at his mom Shut up B.. and get away with it!!
Nuff said.

I wonder what ever happened to "The big black belt"

 

I believe that guy Spock that started that don't spank movement had his kid commit suicide after struggling with drugs and other vices didn't he. I was spanked and my kids were spanked. I don't stand for them talking back or smart aleck remarks just like my Dad wouldn't stand for it. Their both better kids because of it today. They were both given the 2 warning method. And just like a horse they learned real quick what wasn't acceptable behavoir.

 

I backtalked My mother once in my life, and learned quickly that it wasnt acceptable. I was 13 at the time, no faster thanth words coming out of my mouth I was slapped across the face, not hard enough to hurt me but hard enough to get my attention real good.

I see nothing wrong whatsoever with spanking, it seemed to work on me and my brother/sisters. If we did something bad enough then the belts and other various objects came out.

I'm 22 years old and still think that if I backtalked my mom I would either get slapped, or agood belt taken to me. Only it would be by my dad, and that isn't gonna happen LOL.

 

I'm glad to see that the general consensus of this thread is one that I agree with. But it does sadden me that this should even be a question.

Disrespectful kids will either be taught a lesson or they will eventually end up worse when they get older. I was spanked when I needed it and I turned out just fine! Sure, I didn't like it then, but I can look back now and thank my parents for doing so.

 

As I have said many times before and in discussions with my wife, I was spanked a total of 3 times in my youth by my dad. Each time I remember exactly what I did wrong and believe me I never did it again. I got his hand rather than any other "weapon" but my dad was/is a stout farmer/rancher and didn't need anything else.

Now I have a little girl and soon to be a little boy. They are going to be just as stubborn as their daddy. . . but I intend to raise them as I was raised. We were always told that we needed to be on our best behavior when were were out in public, and we were. Now I look back and none of us kids (4 of us) has ever been in any kind of trouble with the law, etc. I firmly believe in getting respect from your children and teaching them to respect others. I don't look to have to spank my children more than a couple of times ever, because if you teach them the right way to behave they will do it. Plus, I am WAY more stubborn than they are, I've had more practice.

 

This is a good topic.

The bottom line is that discipline leads to respect. It is very easy to spot children who are not disciplined at home because they have no respect for their parents and no respect for anyone else. These same kids are likely to carry their lack of respect with them for the rest of their lives. In my opinion, a parent that does not provide firm and consistent discipline is really doing a disservice to themselves, their children and society as a whole.

I am a firm believer in spankings. For young children especially, nothing drives the point home better than a good spanking. My three (almost four) year old has proven this to me time and time again.

Generally, we only spank for direct disobedience. If we tell our son to do something and he does not then he gets spanked. Or, if we tell him not to do something and he does it anyway then he gets spanked. There are other actions that warrant an immediate spanking as well, but we decide those on a case by case basis. In all cases, we take him somewhere private and explain to him why he is being punished before we spank him and we ask him if he understands (to which he always responds "Yes, sir" or "Yes, ma'am"). After we spank him we give him a hug and tell him we love him.

I think it is important to be consistent and, perhaps more important, to always follow through with what you say. If you tell your child he is going to get a spanking when he gets home then he needs to get a spanking when he gets home (even if several hours have gone by). In like manner, if you tell a child you are going to do something FOR him or WITH him then you need to follow through with that. Don't follow through with your threats to discipline only to let your promises of rewards fall through the cracks.

Good topic.