Called it quits....?
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i know EXACTLY what you are going through and i know what your wife is going through, i was on her side of the deal. i just got divorced back in december....my ex husband decided to end the marriage after almost 3yrs of marriage. i tried the whole time we were seperated to make it work and he just wasnt willing. if you are both willing to make it work, give it time before you sign those final papers. just because you filed doesnt mean you cant go back and fix it. it hurt so bad inside when he did that because he informed divorce wasnt an option when we got married, but i found out that it was. during the whole time of the seperation it was the hardest thing i had to deal with...i made myself sick....didnt sleep a lot of nights. in the end it was the best thing that has ever happend to me was a divorce. he has moved on now and getting married and i am happy for him....although it was a nasty divorce and we no longer speak, i still couldnt be more happy for him. what it boils down to is how you want to live the rest of your life...if you want the roller coaster to continue then stay if you dont then you might just have to step away. i would so go to marriage counseling...something my ex husband wasnt willing to do with me. write down what you see is wrong and let her write down what she sees is wrong and then sit down and talk about whats going on. if you cant find a solution then its just best that you walk away from it all. i learned that life is to precious to live a life that you dont deserve. i moved to a different state and got on with my life and i couldnt be more happy than i am now. good luck in whatever you decide. i will be praying for you. if you ever want to chat or just vent im here. again good luck!
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jj3500, what you are going thru is rough. May I suggest that before either of you sign the divorce papers that you run, not walk to the nearest book store and buy two copies of "The Five Love Languages" and two highlighters. Give one book and a highlighter to your wife - today! Both of you read the book and highlight the points that hit you, then get together and talk about what you have read. If both of you can read the book and still not sort out your problems, then and only then, consider a divorce.
Please don't give up yet.
Please don't give up yet.
My counciler said the same. She wouldn't read it until after the court date!
I also , one day had enough of her control.
I got in my truck, told her I would be back. Called my son, my parents, and drove. I stopped ever 4 hours and sat and thought about all the issues and where this may be going.
It was 12 states later when I got home.
All of my friends ( you will find out who those are) say to me " wow you are so relaxed now".
This is your thread, so I will stop at that. Just try to not make any statements and decisions with a lot of emotion.
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