i guess im a little paranoid when it comes to this stuff, my parents are divorced, have been for 17 years, my mom cheated on my dad with his best friend and i know what he went through, thats why i said all that, good information on here, she seems like she wants to stay with you and he is trying to put a wedge between you 2.

 

I have a child from a previous relationship and Im now married and truthfully I respect my husband ALOT for being able to handle that. He knows I hate hate hate my daughters father but we try as best as we can to be civil for our daughter. This weekend we are going school shopping together to split things 50/50 (amazingly his idea) and I can tell it bothers my husband because when I told him about it he didnt say a word but he knows he is more than welcome to go, which I know he dosent want to do because he dosnt really like her father.

The ring since it wasnt actually her grandmother to begin with is a little strange but thats just my opinion. Just sit her down and talk to her about the situation and how it bothers you, try to prevent at all cost a argument. Let her know how you feel about what has been going on and I can almost promise the reason she has been holding back this information is to protect you.

 

I have a child from my first marriage and I have a few things that I have kept as they have meaning to me. That does not mean I'm going back to my ex nor would I consider anything short of it. If you don't have trust, it's only a matter of time before everything grenades anyway. Sit down, talk, and lay it on the table. Tell her how you feel and ask all your questions while you can, then put it behind you and enjoy being married to the woman you love.