People on here have been like a family to me since 2002. I come here for much more than truck discussion, that 'much more' is what I am looking for now...

I lost my girlfriend of almost 3 years a couple weeks ago. It was not to another man... it was because of my own pride and stupidity. She said she doesn't know if she can ever forgive me.

Communications are still open between us... a few times a week anyway.

What can I do? I've tried everything that I know of. I've written her letters. I've surprised her and took her out to lunch. I gave her flowers at work. I've tried to talk it out with her...

The only other idea that I'm planning on doing tomorrow night is pretty corny... but I hope she thinks its sweet. I want to sing her a song. I'm going to go to her house and put in George Strait and sing "I'd Like to Have that One Back".

Any of you romance buffs have any ideas? This stuff does not come easily to me.

 

Hope you sing better than I do. Been with the wife for 18 plus years now. The only thing that ever gets me out of a jam is when I just sit back and take it. Do give her little gifts and such for no reason, but solid communication is the only way to keep her if you can get her back.

Could be you need to just 'fess up and see what happens. She may see you are sincere and just chalk it up to you being a male. That seems to work at my place.

Good luck,

Ed

 

Don't know if I can help you. What ever you did will never be erased from her mind. No matter what you do with or for her, there will always be the doubt she has about you.
So my advice, as difficult as it may seem now, is learn from you mistake, and move on and find another girlfriend.
This is from many years of expierence, and a lot of mistakes.

 

Sheesh, what did you do? That sort of matters, but it sort of doesn't too. It's not really necessary for you to tell us.

You have a few things going for you right now. The first thing is your age, because if it doesn't work out you still have plenty of time to meet someone else. The second is that she is at least talking to you. The third is time, it is much more likely that you can straighten things out sooner than later. As time goes by your chances will get slimmer.

I'm no romance guru, but the best thing you can do is to lay it on the line. Tell her the truth about how you feel. Apologize, tell her you love her, whatever, but you have to make a compelling point so that she truly believes that you are sorry. After that give her a few days to let it sink in. If she feels as strongly for you as she should after three years you shouldn't have to wait more than a few days for her to call. Keep this in mind too... You may need to make a compromise to make this work. If that is the case just do it! Oh, and get used to it to because you'll have to bend a little or it will break again.

I hope things work out for you.

 

As far as singing goes , practice on the CB . If somebody tells you not to give up your day job , you'd better try another plan .

 

Holy! She hasn't forgiven you even after the gestures already extended. Lots of good advice above, but maybe I have no heart, lose her! She's stringing you along and it's a game to her now! I mean no disrespect to you, but her. If she's that hard headed, stuck-up, or whatever else, she's not worth wasting any more time over. Cut all ties completely and immediately and don't look back! Try to find someone else that appreciates your effort - by that, I mean just let it happen. My experience has been that the more effort that's been put in to meet someone, the harder it seems to be.

But, what do I know - I still haven't met one smarter than a corner fence post on the farm.

Good luck!!

 

Women want what they can't have. You are being too easy. Tell you that you're sorry and that you've accepted the fact that she won't be with you anymore. Then sit back and wait till it sinks in .... she'll want to know why you gave up on her so soon and she'll probably come back to you. Catering to their every whim makes it worse because she knows that she has you by the short hairs. Doing too much will push her away. Then again I'm a 37 year old single guy... maybe my advice isn't the best to follow. haha

 

Man I know ur pain man

I lost my GF too only in my case it was to her own stupidity. Ive learned with dating, and other phillies and experience. If a woman is mad, just let her be, i would suggest just stay out of her hair and let her reminise of you herself. There will always be somethin in a woman that will remind her of you, you know, IF you call and agitate her shes gonna get mad again and shes not gonna miss you shes gonna be ticked for some odd reason or another. Songs, letters, and flowers, usually are meaningful, but when she least expects them. The typical males do that everytime they mess up and when u bring them that its just a reminder for when and how you messed up at sometime. Women are complex creatures, the man who cracks their sinister code should be endowed to status of god, but how do you predict something that changes its mind as often as it blinks in one day? Its not logical. I would suggest let her come around by herself. Just leave her alone. I have learned from my younger bro and my own experience, you treat a gal like dirt, she will stick to you like mud.. WHY??? Nice guy routine only works to keep them there for a while, once they start gettin comfy, keep them on their toes.. Perhaps im too childish to have a mature relationship, but i am learning what women want and like.. You will ignore her and it will go through her mind a hundred thousand times is he thinkin of me? is he this is he that, YOU WILL BE ALL THAT THEY THINK OF, and if you make urself scarce they are gonna pursue you even more. Hey you have a life too man, get on with it, Women come and go, and i know ur pain, i know what its like to be cheated on and pushed around, So hey right now im not lookin for a good gal, she will come round, they usually do, and if not, just use what you learned from her, write it off as a chapter in your life, and be patient, you will find love once again. I know thats what im doin, and my dates unfortunately have been nothing more than passing amusements, and learnin experiences as of yet.. I wish you the best of luck, from deep down in me, but just let her be, if she comes back to you, then yall are meant to be, and so within time, that you shall see..

Besides you are 21, this happened to me at your age.. so i know exactly how ur feelin MAN!! you should be out there makin urself seen and heard.. chix dig diesels! i know... so git out there and make urself available, have fun, and put the pain behind you.. Best of luck my friend.. i sincerely mean it.... as far as the song goes.. no offense man ur wastin ur time..... ive had a gal do that to me, and it didnt phase me, just downright agitated me...
Tx

 

Girls are one word, "odd". Me and my girl got into a fight the other day when she found out how much i got for my bonus So yeah I bought exhaust, intake (yes that's it so far) but she was mad cause I buy so much for my truck blah blah. Long story short, she was mad that I spend a lot and none on her. She only wanted to see that she is the most important thing in my life (which she is) but sometimes girls just really need that. So she's still a bit steamy (however I did buy her a ring, and this weekend asking he to marry me) so she better forgive me when she realizes the rest of the bonus went to a ring = )
I agree with everybody in here, be honist, truthfull and tell her how you feel, short and sweet. Don't compare yourself to others and just admit it, I'm sometime stubborn too, but I've learned and been dealing with it, and she loves it that I'm listening to her. Trust me girls hang on every word you say, and when you listen to them, it means the world. Best of luck keep in touch. I love my girl. When we were both younger, I told her we'd get a limo for prom. No no no, we had to take the Truck to prom Oh yeah this girls a keeper. (didn't have the diesel back then, but did have a lifted V-10 that was pretty sweet)

 

The one who loves the least controls the relationship. Look for another woman and see what happens.

 

Keep the communication open and going and ride the storm, and if the storm finally bucks you off then you lost it, if she forgives you and takes you back, you are a lucky fellow and learn from it. Now this is from a old man who has been married for 28 years and was once young and made some mistakes also. Don't be in such a rush,take it slow ask for forgivness and then earn it. If she gives it to you then all will go well, your lucky you weren't married and you better get it out of your system now before you do. One more thing prayer also helps and asking others to pray for you helps too!! Goodluck,,Rick

 

Well...at the very least...you've picked a good song. Now...whether or not you can actually carry a tune remains to be seen.

 

Dude, move on with your life. I did something like this and wasted a few years waiting around for her. Dont waste your time as that is one thing you cant get back either. Move on and be happy.

 

I agree with GIT-R-DONE. Women are nothing more than a pretty demon. They will sucker you in and then nail you.

If you cant eat it or p*ss it rent it.

 

I know how ya feel man. I just broke up w/my girl(well it was back in March, but God it feels like it was yesterday). I just came to the conclusion that I did the best I could for her, and if it wasnt good enough for her, so be it. I made mistakes in the relationship and so did she, but I was willing to work at the relationship, and make things better, but she wasnt. We havent talked for 3 weeks and 2 days now, yea pathetic that I remember it exactly, but you know how that goes. Its weird, and you might not believe it, but time heals all pain. Give her space, if she comes back and you guys work it out to still be together, then its meant to be. If yall can still be friends(which is almost impossible) so be it. If it doesnt work out, then God bless you both, learn from your mistakes, and acheivements, and move on brotha.