i get a EARFUL at work.

my wife works with me, (we used to be in the same office)

anyways, she got to know the girl that sets behind me real well,
and then the wife moved, so now, they IM each other alot.

and talk about how horrible i am for not pandering to my wife's every desire.

and now my wife sets with a ~25 year old girl in her new cube.

my wife always makes deserts, and brings them in for all the office to munch on. with just us two at the house, no use us eating a whole cake or pan of brownies (esp if she won't put pecans in there)

so anyways, the 25yo wants to do some Halloween treats and bring them in, but she can't because her hubby "won't let her buy frivolous stuff"

she said she founded the CUTEST little halloween shirt, like orange with a black kitten on it, and she was dying to buy it, and again, hubby said no.

so my wife was ranting on about what a flaming BH this guy was,
because they have pretty good money, judging by the vacations they go on.

and i calmy replied, "i was EXACTLY like that when we were younger and $$ was a bit tighter, and did not realize how much it meant to you"

she said "yeah, and everyone thought you were a ____ ___ __ __ ____ also"

(fill in your own words, it's a family site)

so, anyways, it's important to women to do silly stuff with our money, so let'em every once a while, just to keep them happy..

whats that country song, "she wanted that red dress so bad..."

 

I totally agree,it makes things much easier when i want new stuff for the truck.

 

Couldn't agree with you more...My wife buys things and talks about stuff I don't have a CLUE about......I just smile and nod and answer wherever required just glad she is happy.

I figure we are different and no matter how hard you try, us guys are just NEVER going to understand them, but thats OK!. We don't have to understand them, we just have to love and respect them. Do that and everything works out just fine.

I support what she wants to do knowing her happiness is far more important than my understanding the need to do things, problem solved I know she listens to me babble on about this diesel stuff without a clue what I am talking about, but she supports me as well when I do it.

My conclusion; men and women are different, we are meant to be. Don't fight it, just trust and support her and life is GOOD

 

i been thinking, she likes all her girl stuff to be frilly and pink.

if we could just an Edge Attitude in pink, i could get her to approve that purchase....


she's got a pink helmet to ride her bike, she always says "do i look tough?" every time she rides, i say "no honey, you had on a pink helmet & a pink shirt, you look like Barbie out for a ride"

...always goes over well....

i volunteered to go wherever SHE wants for lunch. Donations will be accepted to help cover the cost of this...

 

My Wife is a cowgirl so I don't mind what she spends her money on. She wouldn't be caught dead in pink. If it ain't western it ain't happening for her. She'd rather have a new saddle or trailriding gadget than a new blouse. And yeah, I thank the Lord and her for that pretty often. Matter of fact she just mentioned last night that she is wanting to get rid of her 9mm and a buy a more western styled revolver. Dang I love that woman.

 

Smile and nod... and hand over the wallet. It's only money, I'll make more next month.

I like to randomly bring home a rose or something.

Or a cream soda, she likes those. It does not take much.

And, I gotta keep her happy so I can buy truck stuff...

 

I have a tendancy to be the BH in our household as well. I like to have a stash, so to say, for that emergency that is around every corner! However! The other day, the wife asked if she could buy the kids some clothes and such, and I said sure, like I usually do for things like that, but I also gave her some extra above what she thought she needed. She was stunned! I said to make sure to spend it on HER though! Well, she did some of it.........kids got a few more clothes too! It sure makes things a little easier around the house when ONE little thing like that can change a mood!

 

I agree with you all as long as she puts the nuts in the brownies at home!

 

Bring'em chocolate. Works for mine. She hates flowers they just die but a box of chocolate goes a long way.

 

my wife is pretty level headed dont do silly stuff she just has a shoe obsession. She must have 150 pairs

We went to a wedding the other weekend and she asked which shoe went better with her dress...... I looked at her and said "they are the same shoe's" she got a little tiffed and said they are the same style NOT the same color. Now I worked in a body shop as a painter and I can spot a missmatch anywhere So I again said "They are the same" ...

She goes and gets the box's One says Salmon and the other says rose pink. And she says see!!! they are not the same !!!! I guess she showed me...
So I said "Ok the one on the left ... and by the way Salmon arent pink only their insides are" Strike one...

So when she was doing her girlie thing in front of the mirror I took one shoe from each box and switched them. Strike two


She didnt know anybetter ...... Untill I told her at the wedding what I did ...Your out


I have to say the guest bedroom really needs a new mattress....

 

Me and my wife keep our money seperate but we share the mutual bills as far as house and all that, this works because my wife makes more than me

 

I can guarantee one sure thing........ if your wife is not happy, you will not be either. Small things do make a huge difference, a great payback for so little invested.

 

My wife isn't as bad about that now. I don't mind occasional things. If the kids need things or she needs clothes for work. It keeps things nice and peaceful in the house. Especially when I buy stuff for the truck I make it a point to buy her something before she can use it as ammo for a later argument. Gotta keep ten steps ahead and all will be well. Being married teaches you great strategic planning skills.

 

^ Thats for sure! Always plan ahead! Never really understood that until I got married and had kids!

 

well, men wouldn't read it anyways until something is broken so why bother...

but that's my next retirement scheme....


long time wife here, very independent and never carried a purse much less shop for shoes..tools and new projects yada yada heard all about that spending money stuff too until he had to live by himself for a few months....

wow, what a change when he came back! I like a good joke or laugh; a surprise card or flower (way to go Madhat!); and when he offers to help me work on something. now we share housework, project work and have fun on road trips to go fix stuff or get parts.

you guys need your own private space/time- she should too. seperate accounts just for yourselves (remember piggy banks?) for treats.
RESPECT CONSIDERATION FINANCIAL FAIRNESS COMMUNICATION

there. doing over 1100 divorce and custody cases I have learned what everyone can fight about. any relationship requires adjustments (new attitude), maintainence (physical actions) and honesty at some point.

please, if it bugs you, don't let it build up without saying something.
any defensiveness from her (or you) means it isn't perceived as being fair right now! use the printed facts and future concerns to control the spending.
too many of ______? start the buy new for even amount going out.

I had to give up tool auctions.....sigh

Heidi in NY living much better now than seven months ago
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