It's been 3 days now, trying to cope with this .My son got him self into a car accident where his friend (a girl) was a passenger, died. Never in my wildest dreams I thought this would happen to us. Try to get through this each day is a challenge. On thing that has made it a little easier the girls mother called us to see how our son was , We had never met her, and I never new the girl. She did not place blame on him and invited us to the funeral. I tell my son life go's on, The best way is to honer her life make something positive out of this. It's easier to preach this than put to practice.

 

- - - - - Your Family is in our Prayers Brother! I'm extremely sorry for Her familys loss and hope that your son has a fast and easy recovery. Just remind him that we are all here for a reason and that her life here on earth was for a purpose. It may be 20 years before he realizes what/how her death impacted him but he will. God Bless her, and may she rest in Peace!

 

You have my sympothy. I cannot imagine. I have been close to 2 families that have went through this as well, and have seen how it affects them and those close to them. It is not easy and there is nothing anyone can do to advise you on how to handle it that will make it any easier. God's speed in your son's recovery and I hope he and your family can grow stronger through all of this. It will take time. My sympathy goes out to the girl's family as well. That is one call I hope I never get.

 

That sucks to hear man you will be in all of our prayers

 

ive lost 4 friends in the last 1 1/2 years, one just like you described, it is hard to get through these kind of things, you, your family and your son will.

 

My prayer's go out to your family and the girl's family!!!! Makes you hug that boy just a little harder doesn't it!!!

 

Our prayers are with all of you. I would got to the funeral, and get to know the girls mother and any family. It will ease the pain for all of you. It is never easy but it happend, so go and share the grief,
God Bless

 

I'm praying as I write this for your son, for the family of the girl who was killed, and also for you and the rest of your family as you try to work through this. Be with your son - take him out and just be with him. You may not have to initially even talk this over in depth with him - just listen to him and let him be free to speak, to cry, to shout or yell, just let him purge some of the frustrations and feeling he's dealing with.

If it's something you would consider, give a call to a local church (or your own if you're part of one) and ask if they have a pastoral conselor on staff. It's free to visit one, it's different than going to see a psychologist, and it may give your son a chance to open up more. Whatever way you do it, let your son know it's okay to express his feeling and thoughts about this. It's when we hold them in that we start running into trouble.

May the Lord bless you and your family in this time....

 

Prayers to you and your family and the girls family. I have a few friends who have gone through this kind of thing. Having the forgiveness of the girl's mother is a blessing. Being blamed, on the other hand, by the victim's family leads to misery and pain for all survivors. Take this forgiveness as a blessing, and stay in touch with the Mother of the girl as long as you can. You will need each other to get through this tragedy. God bless, Kurt

 

I will pray for your son and her family.
Seeing his days are determined,, the number of his months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he cannot pass. Job 14: 5

 

When it hits close to home, it kind of makes all the stories seem real somehow. This is why after my motorcycle accident a few years back, I have a new appreciation for every day. Never take anything for granted. My prayers and thought are with you.

 

Our prayers go out to all of you as well including the girls and her family.

You might consider counseling for your son as well, he is going to have to live with this the rest of his life and he may blame himself without you even realizing it.

I lost a friend in a vehicle I was driving and even though it was proven in Federal and State Courts that I was 100% free of negligence in the accident, there is still that "What if I had only done something differently" thing, that can come back to haunt you.

If he has any issues, now is the time to catch them and deal with it, so they don't fester and grow. They call an accident, a "accident" for a reason. Sometimes things just happen out of our control.

Best of luck

 

My prayers and heartfelt condolences for your son, and for your family and the young woman's family. I agree with those who have suggested that you share in the grieving process, spreading it a bit thinner will help.

One of my son's best buddies and his fiancee were in a head-on last year - some idiot was not paying attention, crossed the line and hit the minivan ahead of their CJ, two lane highway. The minivan was spun and wiped out the CJ, blew them completely tumbling off the road. Son's friend was ejected when his seatbelt ripped out of the Jeep's body. The girl's belt held.... on impact the diff was driven up through the fuel tank, which exploded. She burned in the ensuing fire. We were told she was already gone when it happened, I can only pray that is the truth.

This young man was of course riddled with guilt over not being able to avoid the crash, as well as feeling that his 4-wheeling mods may have had some effect on what happened when the Jeep came apart. His own severe injuries are healing, but he's still pretty rocky.

The idiot that caused the crash has evidently gotten off..... Too bad they could not have taken that last ride with the lovely young minister's daughter they killed.

Hug your kids, folks....

 

May the grace of God touch all of those involved with this tragedy.