Basically I meet a girl like two years ago at school, fast forward we dated for a year, she left me for her exbf, basically saying that he had changed(this is the same guy that left her forty miles from home because she wouldn't drive his boat when he was drunk, and almost through her down the stairs). I feel pretty bad* towards girl in general at this point. I kinda meet a girl that works at the bank, but all that runs through my head it what if she is the same way, basically I can't get the ***** to ask her on a date cause I'm scared it will turn out the same way. Thoughts suggestions???


*Admin edited for language

 

There are great gals out there and some not so great.
As long as you're still single, don't be afraid to 'sample from the buffet' before committing to a "Take Out" order.

 

Burns heal, give it a shot...ya never know...

 

Not a Dear Abbey sort of person but what helped my son after he got fried a few times was to convince him to not try and have a girl friend. He finally lightened up and started going out on short daytime no strings attached dates (a lunch--a movie). With no pressure it made dating a lot easier for him. Took years but he finally found the right gal, they lived together (I know--a sin) for four years and have now been married for three. I am in my mid fifties but occasionally can remember how much “heart ache” hurts. When you are young, Love Stinks.

 

Learn from your mistakes.

Keep trying 'til you get it right.

 

Man I am going through the same thing as you, like shovelhead said don't be afraid to taste the buffet... I still go out and talk to girls and what not just if we start to hang out more and more often I just pay a little more attention and look for similar things that this new girl does that my last one did so I can tell if shes the same way or not..

not all of them are bad, I have many friends that have been with there girlfriends/wifes for years and years.. just have to find the right one for you.. good luck!

 

Buffet? where? Oh, nevermind...its about girls. I got the take home take out...5 yr anny in Feb. I suggest don't think so much and be glad she went back for another round with her ex...she made him top choice even after some abuse...you do not need one of those...I called them fix its...they'll suck the energy out of you. Play it cool and all will be fun. Do not let FEAR stop you.
Let it motivate you. Good luck with the bank gal.

Scotty

 

Time is going to pass regardless, may as well try and have some fun while it does.

 

Cant win if you dont play! Get back on the horse, but have fun! Dont go into it with a "get a girlfriend" mentality. Just date and be cool.

 

get rid of the fear because it will haunt you for life and screw up every relationship from now on.

 

Get back on your horse and ride that sucker. Lifes too short and there are a lot of great gals out there. Just remember they are gals and will always act like gals...

Kurt

 

Well, do never ever again date a girl, just fend them off.
This is my heartfelt advice since I intend to become a dirty old man and will need the opportunities
j/k

There are good ones and bad ones out there. Take it easy, do not force yourself to date girls just to be "normal"- Go out and meet them as human beings, as potential friends, and there will be some that will go a part of your way of life with you.

AlpineRAM

 

Seven years old on a gold palomino I sat up tall with my face to the wind
I'd seen the rodeo cowboys in Reno so I dug in my boot heels and pulled on the reins
And Blaze he took off a running he threw me down off the side
Then my Uncle Jim picked me up once again said get back on that pony and ride
Get back on that pony and ride

So lift up your head boy I know how you're feeling
You say you won't ride with a chance you might lose
You fallen from love and your head is still reeling
Your heart and your pride have been shaken and bruised
And like Blaze she took off a running...

I'm not saying forget what you lost I suppose there's a purpose in pain
What we make of ourselves has a cost
And it's paid every time we take hold of the reins

So dust off your blue jeans get back in the saddle losing's a place to start over again
Gettin' back up there is half of the battle
And love like a pony should race with the wind
And like Blaze it takes off a running...

 

should change your nick name from "registered user" to DTR Poet.

Cowboy peotry is cool

 

I've been in your shoes twice and it hurts. Hurt me enought to lose some man points and cry. Until I had realized she had done me a favor and if she were still here I would of never met the lady I'm with now. You have to open yourself up to diffrent types of girls. I always went after the cowgirl type looking back it was time well wasted in HS, then I went with daddys girls, good girls, religious girls, smart girls, dumb girls, girls that like your truck, party girls, girls that leave and come back and leave again. And finally I found one that is a Risk taker/simple pretty girl combo, loves to work with children, doesn't drink or smoke and is going to get PHD in school psychology she is diffrent than me in many ways smarter than me tho. But she makes my other half. If she dumps me tomorrow I would probably die! But life goes on.