For years now I have been fighting the pain of a disibility while doing full time warehouse work. I just can't take it any more, my off time is spent recovering from trying to work. I"m not looking fir sympathy just need to vent. Because I feel guilty for not working. I have a very strong work ethic and feel bad if I even have to call in sick to work.

My wife has a good paying job, so we should be able to survive with some lifestyle changes untill I can receive SSID. That also make me feel guilty, getting money from the government because I am unable to work. However I will need it to survive.

Well, thanks for letting me rant, Don't really have anyone to talk to about this except my wife. Maybe now I can spend more time taking care of the truck.

 

Certain times and certain needs require assistance. Don't feel bad. Feel great full you still have the rest of your health.

I am very similar to you. I feel guilty asking for help or even calling in sick to work. I have not missed a day of work in almost 8 years because of it. However, if the times comes, I will keep in mind how hard I have worked all my life and then take advantage of what I can.

Be comfortable, enjoy the wife and truck and maybe a part time job to just break up the monotony. A few hours a week might keep you feeling less guilty

 

It's there for honest hard working people like yourself who have been paying in all their life. Too many deadbeats take advantage, Don't feel bad you worked for it.

 

GHermann, I'm in the same boat. 52 years old,2 years ago I broke my back, T-12 burst fracture,back pain, my hips are shot and 1 shoulder.
How much pain ,discomfort is a guy supposed to put up with?
Work, and then recover from work,,,not much fun.

 

I know how you feel. At 54 I developed cardio myopathy. Couldn't work cause N.J. took anyway my C.D.L. I guess they should have but I feel like crap now. Feel worthless sometimes being on social security and all. But not much I can do about it though. Wife has good job and my son does all my physical stuff. But I carry on. STILL have my truck. Ok later

 

Even the BEST racehorse gets put out to pasture when he can no longer run.
You on the other hand, don't have to worry about becoming Alpo.

Rest, You've earned it.

I have been trying my darnest to get Permanent Disability for Accute ****-Glaucoma.
After nearly 40 years of employment, I have developed a degenerative 'disease' that makes it
so I just can't see dragging my butt to work each day.

I have 1 year, 3 months, 25 days until I can retire.
Not that I'm keeping track or anything...........

 

You Will Scrutiniose Your Self Mor Than Anyone -
Don`t Be So Hard On Your Self!
I Hope You Have Better Sucess Than I - I Couldn`t Work -so What Did I Do Rather Than Draw Ssi I Went In To Busness For Myself- Did This For About 8 To 10 Yrs Until I Couldn`t Eaven Manage That -
Dum Move - Made It Much Harder To Get Ssi - Still Wanted To Get Part Time Job - And Because They Had Me Registered As Handicaped - No One Would Hire Me For Anything ( Didnt Want The Libality )
That Is Terribly Frustrating- ( Mine Is A Back Injury -lower Back)

The One Thing That I Found That Helped - Building & Reparing Things For My Own Use ( Instead Of Buying ) At My Pace (thats The Important Part) I Have Rebuilt The Last 4 Or 5 Cars & Trucks That We Drive - Its Just Like Getting A Paycheck - If You Don`t Have To Spend The Money - If You Run In To A Part Of The Job You Don`t Hace The Equipment For Or Its Two Heavy -sub That Portion Out -
You Can Still Be Suscessful And Feel Good About Your Self !
Claude

 

AS a taxpayer I am very happy to see a hard working individual that deserves the government help. I am very proud to help pay for someone like you so you can get help. I only hope there will be something left of it when I get there! Relax and get yourself rested so you can enjoy those days off. Don't beat yourself up over not working, I have seen what it did to my dad when he had to retire on disability from owning his own plumbing business for 25 years. He really let it eat him up and finally with the help of the family and others he is once again happier, just more busy tinkering on mowers, trucks and grandkids.

 

I would rather see someone get help and benefits that have worked for it.
Know a few people that are "disabled" and mow three to five lawns per day every day.
depending on your skill set, you might talk to your employer about a light duty job. disbatching, maintenance, training, something that doesn't have you on and off a forklift and more importantly in and out of trailers all day.

 

I could not agree more.

You've busted your butt and it finally caught up with you. It happens to everyone, and now you just need to find out what talents you have that can transfer to a new/different job that won't hurt you.

I think you'll find yourself surprised at what you can do once you put your mind (not your body) to it.


Kris

 

You have worked hard and paid into the system for years, take advantage of it. The problem is that we have people on that system that have never worked a day in there lives, my wife has a cousin that got on disability when he was 18 and has never paid a dime in taxes in his whole life, and there is nothing wrong with him. I may have to go on disability someday( bad knees ), so do not drop your head. Pick up you check with your head held high knowing that you have paid into it and deserve it....

 

Ditto. Collectively as a society we can help deserving people like yourself. No worries,mate. Take care and good luck with SS. It's a time consuming process. Heroin addicts qualify here in San Diego,but we were unable to secure help for my mentally ill sister-in-law. That was even with pro bono help from a wonderful local lawyer. I just retired after forty+ years as a warehouseman/truck driver.

 

Could you simply do something different?

 

I would agree with the others and say don't feel guilty to take the help that you need. Sounds like you have earned it.

I would add though, find something else to do that doesn't add to the wear and tear. You'll need it for you sense of self and well being. I've seen many old farmers retire to town only to pass away in relatively short period of time. Always figured that had as much to do with felling like they needed to get out of bed in the morning to get the work done as it did anything else.

 

Many stories of the same situation, I have gone through the same boat, but here is one that's worst. My neighbors son 48 lost his job, same job he had since high school a heavy duty mechanic a very hard worker, job one. He was able to Sucre another place to work but he was so stressed out trying to fit in and do his best he ended up giving himself a heart attack. Buddy we are old, yes old, we have done a good job to where we can stand proud of our accomplishments its our turn sit back watch the young kids do it. Working part time to just dust the bones off is not a sin its a right ENJOY LIFE YOU CAN MEASURE IT WITH A TAPE!!!!!!!!!!!!