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Am I being too macho?

Old Jan 31, 2008 | 05:11 AM
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I'm not going to tell you what to do but I do know that I can cook very well. I quickly noticed that the chicks REALLY dig when the guy cooks dinner for them. You might be doing him a big favor for future endeavors
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 05:18 AM
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And he'll be much less vulnerable to the typical female blackmail method that connects the "honey-do" list with food intake
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 05:35 AM
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I dont feel that him learning to cook will change his preference. He does have a tool bench and a four wheeler and whenever Daddy has the hood up or is under the truck, the four wheeler is being "worked on" at the same time. I know my son is all boy, no doubt about that, should have seen him at Dyno Day, couldnt hardly control his excitement. I do like the idea about getting him a play grill instead of a play kitchen. He has played with toy kitchens and my wife says at group events if there is one there, he stays with it the entire time. He always wants to help cook and do the dishes and I believe it is because he enjoys spending time with Mom and Dad, not because he has aspirations of becoming a homemaker. I will suggest the grill idea, I think that is a good compromise, but my wife has a head made of steel and I very well may loose this one. Wont be the end of the world. Hey, I really appreciate everyones input on this one. I was stressing about it and about to contact Dr. Phil, maybe he would come to my house too!
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 09:10 AM
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Even if his preferences do end up on the 'I like men side", you should still accept him & be supportive of him. Just because he likes to cook (good thing to know how to do), don't mean he will. Liking to be under the hood of a car don't mean he won't either. He sounds like he will be very well rounded guy either way to me.
BTW. . .. knowing how to fix a car is also a very good thing.
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 09:31 AM
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Originally Posted by Rampage1967
Just because he likes to cook (good thing to know how to do), don't mean he will. Liking to be under the hood of a car don't mean he won't either. He sounds like he will be very well rounded guy either way to me.
BTW. . .. knowing how to fix a car is also a very good thing.
Agreed. I had a cabbage patch kid when I was little (his name was Fred and he ended up helping change (soak up) oil in the car blonde hair turned black real quick) but I grew up to be what I consider a pretty manly man. I can also cook enough to get by if I have to.

I guess I look at it this way. I have both a boy and a girl. My little girl likes to do all the girly stuff, but she also likes to play rough and has helped me work on all kinds of stuff. My little boy plays with trucks and such, but he also grabs his sisters' dolls from time to time.

Life is too short to worry about that kind of thing. Enjoy your kids and support whatever they want to do. Unless of course, he wants a pink lacy apron.
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 10:58 AM
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Just an observation from years ago when I took a couple of courses at "Northgate State" in Seattle. In the cooking classes were mostly men, so they could cook for themselves out on their own. In the beginning auto shop classes for the basics, like how to put air in a tire, change a tire and do oil changes to save $$$ it was mostly gals.
Learning skills to make it on their own.
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 11:40 AM
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I will love my son no matter what, I believe it is nature to love your offspring. I did a study in college about twin boys, one of which was born with deformed parts. He was "changed" surgically as an infant and raised as a girl. The individual had many problems growing up. Long story short, you are who you are and it will always be that way. I was just caught off guard at first by the propostion from my wife. I appreciate all the input to set my mind at ease. Where do I pay?
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Lary Ellis (Top)
Let the boy play with whatever he wants He is just mimicking you guys when you cook.

The only thing I would be concerned about is that he doesn't get confused and think the stove is a toy as well. Many children get horribly injured in kitchens, we don't want that to happen to your sweet child

^^^^^agree^^^^^^
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 01:35 PM
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We have one of those corner cook kitchens in our house. Every kid that comes over loves that thing, its the most played with toy in our home. My daughter has outgrown it now but my two boys, 3 and 1, love that thing. PS I'm 6-3 235# and I love to cook... always have. I'm ok with it. Kurt
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 06:49 PM
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My 6 year old son helps cook about once a month. We got the kids their own mini muffin tins, pastry roller, bowls, spatula's, wisks etc. Normal quality and color. I think it is a good idea for everyone to learn to cook. I don't like cooking, but with both me and my wife working, I find myself cooking breakfast, packing lunches and making dinner alot! He sees me doing it all the time and I never thought of myself as feminine for cooking. Family needs to eat! Anyways, long story short is the kids like helping every now and then no matter where in the house or garage. I would put my foot down on a pink cooking set though! LOL
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 07:50 PM
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OK, this is tough for me. My son has his 4th b-day coming up and my wife is trying to figure out what is the best gift for him. He loves to help us in the kitchen when we are cooking. She suggested that we get him a kitchen set to put in place in the kitchen so he can pretend to cook while we are making dinner. Am I being too much of a scared male by saying no. I mean, the easy bake ovens and barbie cook sets of my day were all pink and girlie. IF she could find something that had Emeril all over it I could see letting it fly, but I really feel like Im giving the go ahead for "Jazz Hands" here. Am I analyzing it too much or am I justified in saying no. Im really sorry for even having to post this. Thanks from an overly macho DTR member.

I still can't get over "JAZZ HANDS"
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Old Jan 31, 2008 | 08:09 PM
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i bought my son a bb gun for his 4th, .22 for his 7th and he is interested in shooting competitively. told him that if he gets all A's & B's on his report cards, i will buy him a gun every year. ALL A's is a competition gun with shooting lessons. he is busting his butt to get it.
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Old Feb 1, 2008 | 12:37 AM
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my 8yo boy cooks breakfast for his older and younger sisters before school, and is a heck of a hand making cookies You also have to pry him off his little KTM 50 motorcycle, so at 4, ease up a bit We all worry about this with our kids- there is alot of garbage out there
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Old Feb 1, 2008 | 05:28 AM
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Since I have a 2 yo and twin 10 month girls I watch my son play with his toys and there toys and the girls play with his. There is no way to stop it and at this age I dont think it matters. Every time I work on the truck or one of the cars he is there in the shop with me screwdriver in hand working as well. He likes to be in the field with the cows just as much as in the play kitchen with his sisters. I feel just as long as I provide a good role model he will tun out alright.
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Old Feb 1, 2008 | 05:38 AM
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Agreed, a good role model is imperative. I cook as well, nothing feminine about it, you have to eat or you will die.
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